do any of you attend jummah ?

[ummi2mybabies]

aoa sisters i was wondering if any of you attend jummah services at the masjid ?
or heliqas .

i used to go always every friday without fail ( unless my littel friend came to visit me ) well living here i cant go and i hate it but if i had oppurtunity i would be at masjid always gfor every prayer i used to pray even fajr at the masjid in michigan .

i miss it too much

[JundAllah]

Back in Atlanta, I'd go as often as possible. The Imam was reliable and used correct knowledge, masha'allah.


Since I moved to Florida, I used to go in the beginning so I can meet the other sisters. It was clear they wanted nothing to do with me, and so then I'd go just for the reward and chance to learn. So much for that! The people here can't even say "Bismillah" correctly, and I'm supposed to pray behind them?! I think not!

So I stopped going, alhamdulillah. I think I gain more knowledge sitting at home than actually attending the "khutbah" (if it's even that!) at the masjid here ::) Poor hubby doesn't have much choice, and of course has to go.

[ummi2mybabies]

aoa sis farah i can agree with you totally here i was so happy when i went to my first jummah here mind u i have to go 50 miles round trip and the nasty sisters couldnt even reply with salaam becuase i was wearing salwar kameez only one who spoke to me was a paksitani woman mashAllah she was very nice the rest hummmm ill hold my tongue . dh prays in another place its a store they turned to a masjid on fridays becuase they are looking to buy or rent a building here to have a masjid but when i attened the eid prayers the sisters whose husbands attended that masjid were very nice and welcoming . i have yet to find if they have any womans gatherings here

i miss my islamic environment

now i dont go to the masjd becuase its too far to travel alone with the baby .

[Jamilah]

aos,

Why is that our Masjids or so cold to the visitor?? I just posted that my husband was having the same problem in Texas... They treat him as if he is not welcome to the Masjid and will not talk to him at all!

Inshallah I pray we as a community will soon understand that there is Allah and Allah alone peace and blessing be upon him and that the message was for the world not just for a chosen few!!

My husband went as far to say that as Muslim's we are being to acting like the Jewish people..... I pray that we dont go as far and hide the meaning of the Quran and its' message....We all need Allah and his Message in our lives!!

[JundAllah]

So sorry to hear that your and your hubby are in the same position, Jamilah. May Allah reward you for your sabr and give you a better gathering and company in jannah insha'allah!


Asya, my husband went to Port Charlotte yesterday for a job thing. That's only like an hour from you guys! :lol:

[UmmBarakah]

i would go if my local masjid was more friendly, they lock the prayer room for the womens section all the time except for jummah so you can't go for any other salah and the entrance to the womens section is right by the mens wu'du area so you have to pass the men doing wu'du.

[mura]

Asalaamu alaikum.

Now and then I am off work on Fridays and I try to go to Jummah. There are usually only a couple of other women.

I live in a university town and there is a large population of students from Saudi Arabia. It is very clicky and they tend to operate to the exclusion of all others. Sometimes it is very frustrating. But there is a smaller mixed group that is fairly active and there are some from the Saudi group that transition easily between their clique and the rest of us.

I think a lot of the division is a language barrier. And many of the women don't drive so they are dependent on their husbands for transportation.

Anyway, that is kind of off topic, but a couple of other posts mentioned that they had less than welcoming experiences in masjids. We just need to remind ourselves that we are all sisters and Allah is the ultimate judge.

Someday I hope to live near a masjid with an active women's program.

Salaams.

[LaylahH]

Oh boy. :? Its so sad that its this way at the Masjids. I thought it was just mine. Im actually looking forward to my move to Atlanta tomorrow because the Masjid I found there is really progressive and I already know two sisters there. I pray that things change at all Masjids. We experience enough rudeness and hate from the non muslims. As muslims we should welcome and love each other regardless of race or what we are wearing. To say salaams to a sister and not have her answer back is really disheartening. :-(

[MelissaS]

Salam alaikum

I went once. And it was nice. The women didn't seem to be clicky or exclusive or anything like that, which I was worried about. I'm just too nervous and shy to go alone though I know there's nothing to be afraid of! I want to, Inshallah I'll try to start going once in a while.

[um fatimah]

al salaam o alaikum wa rahamtullah wa barakatuh

Sisters when you give someone the salaams and they don't reply don't feel bad just remember that the angel replied your salaam.
I used to go to jummah salaah but then I hear the women sit and talk about my husband(he gives the khutbah) and they don't know we're married...so I personally just find it better to listen to the khutbahs online....@paltalk instead of hearing how the women admire him...

This is off the topic....but I went to the masjid to attend a walimah with my husband and the kids and as we were there a sister had her walee ask for my husband's hand...two days later another sister did the same thing... when my husband says he's married they would reply it's ok you can have four wives...sometimes they even flip their niqaab and ask him don't you want me...mind you sometimes they even ask him and I'm standing right there...These sisters are american reverts that does that...
don't mean to offend anyone...please forgive me if I did..
um fatimah

[ummi2mybabies]

this is the problem here the womans section is always locked i want togo even if dh goes but only 3 men show up one was dh to pry its sad

wow he is looking there yeah its not to far from me sis farah we r trying to move in shaa Allah to orlando but tampa is an option but we dont know anyone there

[ummi2mybabies]

oh wow sis thats horrible shame on them i wouldnt hold my tongue im american revert and in no way do i do something like that

[Humayraa]

I don't go. There is no women's section in the masjid so even if I went, I'd have no way to get inside the masjid and nowhere to pray.

[faces2paint]

[astg] It's such a shame, even at the best masjids, there is not much encouragement for women to be involved, especially women with children.
Having grown up going to church/sunday school as a young kid, and also as a young adult before marriage, I know what it's like to find fellowship with our peers and also a place for the whole family to gather and benefit. Daycare and sunday school that the kids actually enjoy.
If we could establish this in our masajids, the involvement of the mothers would benefit the whole community.

[Jamilah]

I think you might have something with that!! We have encourage change some how and may if we start in our homes our husband can push a message or even asking the Masjid for time and space and you put up flyer to hold a social event for women and children....

May be I sound like an activist!! ;D

[Halimah]

I have to say, I am shocked at how you all have been treated at your local masjids! The one where I go, everyone is soooo friendly and welcoming. Everyone says salams even people you don't even know. There are men and women there from all nationalities, some born muslim and some converts and everyone is just muslim, as it should be alhamdulillah! That settles it sisters - you all need to move to NY!! [flower4u]

I go every sunday for a Qur'an reading class, and the kids have Islamic school. I have also gone for halaq class, but I have not been able to go for jummah yet. The masjid is an hour drive and I would not be able to go and get back in time to pick my kids up from school. This is their last week of school though so we will be going all summer. [clap]

[SHAIKHA]

Assalamu'alaikum ya Ukht,

NOPE !! Not me...

Most of the mosque here are so packed with Jamaah for Friday prayers that they open-up the women's section to allow men to pray. The congregation will even usually spilled out of the mosque !! MasyaAllah.. and there are so many mosque here, all full-house !!

There are some mosque where women can go & do Jummah prayers.. but I don't go there... just do my Zohor, Alhamdullillah...

JazakAllah khair..

[DiamondLady Mema-Eemah]

Up until 4 yrs. ago I was going every single week...and during the summer if I was too ill to go, I had a brother come and pick my boys up so that they can attend Jumah.

A couple of months after I moved back into town, It was in Feb. 2003 to be exact....I got so caught up with thinking of what to buy with my tax return, that I completly forgot that my son had half a day of school...I had gone out of town (about 25 min. away) with a friend of mine, and when I came back home he was out of breath from screaming my name and hysterical that he could not get into the house (he had to be outside for a good couple of hours)....all he could do was try and scream at me for not being there to have the door open for him......this upset me to no end....just sitting here typing this is turning my stomach upside down......I still cry about it, it is like a nightmare to me.
So anyway, I vowed not to ever be away from home again while he is at school so that I can be here to have the door unlocked for him.....that means, no Jumah......so to make up for not participating in Jumah, I listen to my Khutbahs EVERY Friday like clockwork.......I feel bad that I am not able to make it at the Masjid...but I REFUSE to have my son go through that again.


Naimah (eemah1) [smilie=kitty.gif]

[umm_maryam]

Alhamdoulillah, our masjid here is not like this. We have brothers and sisters from all around the world. I vote occasionally because before i have had Maryam i went to each one in egypt ( exept red break ) . But know it is difficult. We travel there twice weekly, one time for woman only lesson and other time for general lesson. I realy miss it and would go if it is more near.

[AyahsMom]

It makes me sad to hear what you all say about your local masjid. I really think that women should be allowed/encouraged to go and participate in activities, prayers, and lectures at the masjid....ESPECIALLY in the West. Women raise children (for the most part) we need the knowledge and support to help us in this task.

Alhamdulilleh, the Muslim community here is huge and there are so many opportunities for women. At our masjid, the sheikh's wife does the women's lectures, and masha'allah she is really good. It is so nice to have the person lecturing right there in front of you. She does so many programs for women like general lectures, Qur'an memorization, tafsir, Arabic classes....I think there is something every day of the week just for women, masha'allah.

As far as friendliness goes, that is another issue. The women here are definitely friendly, of course returning salaams, etc. I don't feel like I am great friends with any of them, but it is partly my fault for not going often enough. In MN, it took me quite a while before I felt like I was really "in" with the crowd there, and when I finally felt I was, I had to move.

[ammena]

salam, I go for jummah every week :D and i feel lost if I cant make it. Alhamdulillah Allah (subhana wa ta'ala) has moved me close to the masjid and given me work hours so I can pray with all the girls.

[mommyof4under5]

my hb wont let me go, there are men that stand in the entry way of the womens section and you have to try to get past them and almost always 'bump' into them. my hb said that the masjid was built wrong bc the womens entrance is in the foyer right were all the people enter into the building! so he wont let me go bc he says they like to stare and talk to women. so i just pray at home. thats what they do in yemen. no women attend the masjid bc its not mandatory for them. they just pray at home and cook lunch for after the prayer.

[Razzanah]

[smilie=111281salams.gif] I would like to attend jumah on fridays but can not attend because I work all day [smilie=122529icon_sad.gif] and when I am off if it falls on a friday I try my best to attend [smilie=12biggrin.gif] .

[UmmRuwaidah]

[smilie=111281salams.gif]
I get to go when my husband has off from work but i'd like to go more in sha Allah.

[dinah]

gas is so high as I live on tight budget so I went a few times but so much of a hassle as I requested many times for car rides but no one willing to help or answered my e mails ever. husbands and wives are very tight over there if youre alone? they are not too friendly. husband felt uncomfortable to give a lift to another sister even his wife came along. I offered gas money but no help. not big enuf for helping hands at my mosque. so I keep quiet and pray at home.

[Jasmin]

Salams Sisters

I voted no, its a 45 min. drive and only my husband attends
since he takes off from work to attend. I miss attending the masjid
then on other hand I dont cause I wasnt able to hear the Iman
speaking, most of the time the women are talking. [smilie=11281astaghfirullah.gif]

[x7anooonah]

nope. but only bc my husband is never home at that time. i just play al-kahf ..

[Siobhan]

I go when I can.
[smilie=11281alhamdulillah.gif] Our masjid is small but we have a separate entrance for woman and our own room upstairs with a closed curicuit TV showing the men's section- sort of. I always try to pick out my husband but I can't recognise him thats how fuzzy and weird the picture is. At Ramadan the men put up a big wall in their section to accomodate more women and it is still up, so really we are actually kind of spilling out into their space...but I guess they are welcome to take down the wall if they need it back. [smilie=1224311icon_wink.gif]

I found the smileys [smilie=singinrain.gif]

[x7anooonah]

[smilie=111281salams.gif] We never get to go to jumah bc my husband is not home on Fridays and now that I have Talal I rather pray at home anyway. I have been to mosque all over where sisters were nice and some were not so talkative. That never really mattered to me bc we go to the mosque for one thing and that is to worship Allah alhumdullah. The way people pronounce things does not bother me as well bc Allah knows they are trying mashAllah and that is what matters instead of anyone talking about these people who may not have been taught the correct way or about the mosque, astagfurAllah! Allah Alim..

[x7anooonah]

[quote="mommyof4under3"]my hb wont let me go, there are men that stand in the entry way of the womens section and you have to try to get past them and almost always 'bump' into them. my hb said that the masjid was built wrong bc the womens entrance is in the foyer right were all the people enter into the building! so he wont let me go bc he says they like to stare and talk to women. so i just pray at home. thats what they do in yemen. no women attend the masjid bc its not mandatory for them. they just pray at home and cook lunch for after the prayer.[/quote

lol, your hubby sounds just like mine. He hates when the mosque are like you described or the ones were they pray in the same room. AstagfurAllah they are right though. Gulf men are more jealous like this though.

[OomHaleemah]

Assalamu `Alaykum Ukhti,

I go to Jumaah each week b/c husband is an Imaam lol
So i have that privelge mash'Allaah!
But I believe all women have right to be in masjid
It is wrong to stop women from attending
But after Jumaah every week we have community dinner
Men may slaughter a halal animal and women will prepare other food while men cook the animal outside mash'Allah
We are so country, I love it!!