What do you and your Spouse argue about the most?

[DiamondLady Mema-Eemah]

As Salaamu Alaikuum Sisters...... [smilie=wave.gif]

Big Question Here.....

What do you and your Spouse argue about the most?


Naimah (eemah1) [smilie=kitty.gif]

[DiamondLady Mema-Eemah]

I would have to say "all of the above"....minus the "Family".....we don't even go there [smilie=eusa_naughty.gif]......and I might add also that we don't "Argue" about those things....we "fuss" about them, big diference let me tell ya [smilie=1224311icon_wink.gif].


Naimah (eemah1) [smilie=kitty.gif]

[Humayraa]

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First of all, dh and I don't argue. Either he says his part and I say nothing or vice versa. Any conversation where there's a difference of opinion and things seem to want to get heated, I just shut up.

Money...I don't go there. He does what he wants with his and I do what I want with mine. He houses, feeds and clothes me exclusively, Alhamdulillaah, so with all my needs met I don't even bother to think about what's going on with his anymore.

Bills...he pays them all. I try not to waste water and electricity. I don't use any of the phones to make calls. I buy skype credit online and make my calls with that, so he doesn't pay for my phone calls.

Family...his is in Nigeria and mine is in Trinidad. He calls his at his own expense and I do likewise. I don't dip my nose into the affairs of his relatives and he for the most part ignores mine also.

Chores...I do just about everything inside and he does everything outside. Sometimes I try to impose myself in the car when he's going shopping (at the grocery) but that's not to monitor what he's buying, it's to get something which I want which he won't buy if it's not a necessity.

Sex/Intimacy...I won't even go there, lol.

Habits...he has quite a few which I dislike and similarly I have some which he can't stand. I guess that's part of what marriage is about. Learning to tolerate each other's differences. If something becomes unbearable to one of us we just remove ourselves from the situation.

[DiamondLady Mema-Eemah]

I guess that's part of what marriage is about. Learning to tolerate each other's differences.
It took me to be married to the Husband I have now, to really understand & appreciate that.....Mashallah!!


Naimah (eemah1) [smilie=kitty.gif]

[umm_maryam]

If something becomes unbearable to one of us we just remove ourselves from the situation.


Totally agree! That is what i did.

I vote everything of above.

[Ummi_to_Siraj]

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I answered "habits" but it's not really an argument with us because if he fusses about something I try not to answer back because I know my temper and if I say one thing I will end up shouting it, lol. So I just try to say nothing. We argue maybe once every couple months when I finally get irritated with his fussing and lose my temper [smilie=11281astaghfirullah.gif] .

[DiamondLady Mema-Eemah]

I noticed that alot of the Sisters here on MMC have mentioned that they would prefer to "keep quite" as oppose to "letting their mouth run".....Mashallah, that shows "patience".....and there are Blessings in "holding your temper".
May ALLAH help Us ALL to obtain such control....ameen.


Naimah (eemah1) [smilie=kitty.gif]

[ramina]

we have many arguments about money. not fussin. arguin

[ummi2mybabies]

well we dont argue about anything . to be honest if im ticked off i tell him and he listens him he has never once alhumdulilah mashAllah got angry or fussed or anythign at me in our whole marriage ( he is extremly patient ) alhumdulilah mashAllah . on the other hand i complain about the bedroom stuff becuase he is always tired and when im tired im knocked out and what not ever since we had the baby

[bluesky]

Mostly we argue about family and money. All the other things too at sometime or other....but I'm that kind of person. I prefer to argue! I don't like it, when there is tension and the things that really matter are constantly 'swept under the carpet'! I think that is bad for my health and bad for any marriage!

Of course people are different but in my experience and in my view, the best relationships are those where there is a lot of honesty - and love! Mash'Allah, I don't think my marriage would have survived if we hadn't discussed out all of our differences -that way we at least know when we have to make compromises and -if we can make them!

[Leihalaa]

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we dont argue about family this is a no no but we disagree with each other differences. MY dh wants the house spotless and i want my house looked lived in. I was planning to homeschool so i was buying supplies ect to homeschool my dh thought that all a kid need it paper and pen and a good teacher[smilie=oh.gif]. We have small disagreements about everything and nothing lol.

aloha leila

[Teresa]

I really needed a choice for "we don't" because we rarely ever have a disagreement. The only thing that comes close is his habits. I know that he's got a lot of physical ailments so I don't expect him to do any household work but I do ask that he keep his dirty clothes in the hamper. He does not. Ugh! This does tend to cause a stir if I'm not in the mood to deal with it.

Then he'll go for a while keeping them picked up and then slowly he'll go back to not.

[dinah]

we fight about sex hes not a hugging and kissing type guy as he wants sex by appointment!! pooh! I dont beleive that! I need to hug and kiss alot
sex should be when you felt like it and regularly. he would be fine with once a month sex ..well not me!