Divorced with kids and marry?

[umm_maryam]

Assalamu Aleikum Wa Rahmetullahi Wa Barakatuh

Dear sisters

Would you agree and accept your son / daughter marry a divorced / widowed man / woman with kids?
I know in some cultures it is a big no no. I`m curious about you opinions.

[umm_maryam]

I think if the possible spouse is a good an pious Muslim, why not! The age difference shouldn`t be to big and from the beginning should be clear that the kids involved must respect and obey the other part. And the newly wed without kids must be able to deal with the step kids the same way like with the own kids.

[LaylahH]

Why not is my vote as well. [smilie=23icon_mrgreen.gif] My intended is divorced with a daughter and myself with 3 kids. However it may be different and more difficult for younger couples.

[ummi2mybabies]

aoa i voted yes why not

why becuase not always is it the person fault for the divorce sis nadine you and i both know that sooo well both of us were decieved by paper sniffers we shall call them my second marriage the mil was a nightmare and him too . and now alhumdulilah peace and happiness.

i dont think there is anything wrong my dh was never married and no kids so he married me accepted my son loves him cares about him why should i have a problem with my kids doing it . the only requirement i have is they are muslim and a practicing muslim . in shaa Allah . then i will be more then happy to accep ddil becuase ( i only have sons so far ) and accept her kids as my grandkids and not show any diffrence . there is sucha social stigma attached todivorce most ppl dont say anything if the man is divorced nad has kids they alwas blame the woman like its her fault and she is untoucable after divorce . subhanAllah

[DiamondLady Mema-Eemah]

Nadine: I know in some cultures it is a big no no
WOW....how could that be a "no-no" when that is one of the reasons a man can marry more then one wife....the fact that she is a widow with children, in need of help!!!

I would DEFF. marry a man with children....be he Divorced OR widowed....if he is a good, decent, loving & Pious Man.....I would run to marry him [smilie=bolt.gif].

Naimah (eemah1) [smilie=kitty.gif]

[DiamondLady Mema-Eemah]

Nadine: The age difference shouldn`t be to big and from the beginning should be clear that the kids involved must respect and obey the other part. And the newly wed without kids must be able to deal with the step kids the same way like with the own kids.
Excellent point Nadine...... [smilie=thumb.gif].

Naimah (eemah1) [smilie=kitty.gif]

[Umm Yehiya]

"Why not" - another PLUS is that you get so much REWARD for marrying someone with children! It is considered a charity on your part to take those children in and raise them.

[Humayraa]

YESSSSSSSSS....

Age is also something which will not be a factor inshaaAllaah.

[Ummi_to_Siraj]

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I used to say NO WAY, but when I met dh he already had a child so it was either change my mind or not marry dh, and to me that was not much of a choice [smilie=1224311icon_wink.gif] .

Jehada

[SHAIKHA]

Assalamu'alaikum ya Ukht,

I will hv to say "Yes" .. why not ?...
I was single when I married dh.. then become an instant mom of 2 boys !!

Sad to say, this is frowned upon in my society... there will be "talks"... Wallahu-alam. But things are improving...

But frankly speaking from a mother's heart (being truthful here) ... at the back of my mind, I would prefer them to marry a 'virgin' [smilie=princess2.gif] , InsyaAllah... LOL !!

Wallahu-alam

JazakAllah khair...

[dinah]

IM so grateful my husband married me even he was never married before and he accepted me divorced ..four older kids... deaf... german..blah blah..as he did have younger women he could have married but didnt. Im very blessed for a man like him. I know IM very unique woman to him.

[Razzanah]

[smilie=111281salams.gif] Why not marry a person who has been married with children .I teach my children to get to know the person and follow your heart InshaAllah I have two children and been married and I feel I deserve a good muslim husband and I should not be judge. I am happy my zewj did not judge me and we got married.[smilie=11281alhamdulillah.gif] .