do you trust your spouse

[ummi2mybabies]

aoa sisters i wanted to throw this out there

do you trust your spouse think long and hard about this . do u trust him that he wouldnt do nothing behind ur back ie talk to other women , watch things he shouldnt be, him hiding money , him making decsions for the family without ur approval etc


do you trust ur husband

[ummi2mybabies]

i voted yes

becuase i do trust my husband . in the past relationships they lied cheated and decieved me . but dh has never ever given me a reason to doubt him . i trust him so much .

[Razzanah]

[smilie=111281salams.gif] I trust my zewj until he does something that will take my trust away [smilie=121inshallah.gif] I just got married but i knew my zewj before i got married and before I would of said no but know that he is older and more mature I have to say yes I trust him he has proven to me that he is trust worthy.

[DiamondLady Mema-Eemah]

WS.....

I think one of the reasons why I am still with my husband is because I TRUST HIM......otherwise, I am sure the Marriage would be over....that is why the last two didn't last.


Naimah (eemah1) [smilie=kitty.gif]

[nasimaelghazi]

i totally trust simou,,,,and id have to ,, lol ive come clear accross the world for him lol

[LoveIslam]

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totally trust him....only if i find reason not to is when i wont trust him. Alhumdullilah he has been good so the trust resumes..lol

[Humayraa]

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To be honest, I trust no human being, not even myself. The only One I completely trust in is Allaah.

But to answer your question...


do u trust him that he wouldnt do nothing behind ur back ie talk to other women , watch things he shouldnt be, him hiding money , him making decsions for the family without ur approval etc

I don't think it's within his character to talk to women or watch haraam things. He's not the type from what I've seen, waAllaahu 'alam. Honestly, I don't care if he talks to other women or not, or if his eyes watch things they shouldn't or not. It's not my problem and he's not doing me any injustice if he does anything haraam (may Allaah forbid). At the end of the day, the only person he'll be wronging is himself. That's between him and Allaah.

In terms of hiding money, his money is his and mine is mine. All I care about is that he houses, feeds and clothes me. Once my necessities are met then I don't care what he does with his money. I don't ask him what he does with his and I certainly don't volunteer to him what I do with mine.

He can make whatever decisions he wants for the family with or without my approval. Again I don't care. He's the head of the house and head of the family. I see decision making as one of his responsibilities, waAllaahu 'alam. I beg Allaah to guide dh to make the best decisions at all times, but if he makes a bad decision then it's between him and Allaah. It has nothing to do with me.

[bluesky]

I trust my dh. It has taken a long time to get here lol. I always trusted him as regards to other women. He just ins't that kind of person mash'Allah. However, as regards to money, it was very difficult but I did trust him. His money was mine and mine was his. I'll be absolutely frank and say that I wasn't comfortable with that, at all in the beginning. He didn't have much and what little I had, he would take to make ends meet. In the early years of our marriage, just buying clothes and food for the babies was an issue in our house -I spent too much, according to him. I didn't make clothes last for years and I spoilt the kids when it came to food, sigh, that was absolutely as far from the truth as you can get.

The problem for me, was about his decision making. He has every right to make decisions regarding us as a family. However, I never could trust him to make the decisions based on what was best for us, or best for his 'extended' family. I married him, I did not marry them. I did not sign a contract that would constantly put my needs after theirs. It has taken the best part of our marriage to sort that out.

Mash'Allah, he's got it now! [smilie=12biggrin.gif]

[umm_maryam]

I`m the one who voted no. Sure enough all of you know why i don`t trust my former husband to be. And that is the reasone why i`m working on my best to get the final divorce ( Islamic and by law ) Inch ALLAH .

[Teresa]

I said yes that I trust my husband. He's not done anything to break that trust so until he does (and I don't think that will happen) then he's earned it.

By the same token, he trusts me in all things also. We each trust that the other is not going to act inappropriately with the other sex and tell only each other our innermost confidential things.

I agree with Humayraa that if he does break my trust, it's ultimately something he'll have to answer for and repent of.

[dinah]

you can never trust yours 100 percent but you can almost if keep communication opened. I just caught mine talking to 7 women on internet while married to me so i will confront him. pray for me . time to start the tough love once more coming from me. he told me some of them but not others but caught dead. sorry.

[Umm Ayah]

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Well I can trust mine 100.000.000%.

If these men knew the consequences of cheating and doing something stupid behind there wives back, they wouldn't do it. I don't make decisions without my husband's knowlege, nor does he. Have enough respect towards each other, and there won't be so many arguements which leads to seperations, and cheating, and ut'll all end up with divorces.

Dinah, check this out:

The Prophet of Islam said:

“If a drop from zaqqum ( food from hell), were to land in this world, the people of earth and all their means of sustenance would be destroyed. So how must it be for one who must eat it?” (Tirmidhi)

Another food served to the people of Hell will be festering puss that oozes out of their skin, the discharge that flows from the private parts of adulterers and the decaying skin and flesh of those being burnt. It is the “juice” of the people of Hell. God says:

“So no friend has he here this Day, nor has he any food except filth from the washing of wounds which none do eat but those in sin.” (Quran 69:35-37)

[Rahmah]

Yes, I can trust my dh. He has never given me a reason not to alhamdulillah.

[Umm Ayah]

[smilie=11281alhamdulillah.gif] Sister Rahmah [smilie=12biggrin.gif]

[dinah]

IM so grateful all turned out good as I really demand we talk every day or night as hubby and wife without anyone in the way. that made a huge diffrence. including shutting off his cell phone. we sleep better too . thats very scary if you dont talk to each other and you thought you know him or her 100 percents of the time but you dont till you dig in..heart to heart talk at all times. funny my old dr came on line to let me know that we can meet him and his wife as hes also an immam at the mosque whom I havent seen in four years. hes a very good conversationlist and knows how to reach out to ppl. IM blessed with a very good hearted immam/dr in our area.

[Umm Ayah]

Good job dinah. That's what I'm talking about. THAT'S WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT

[dinah]

so funny when I pointed that out to my hubby he proved me plenty of times so Im lucky as hes got sensitive conscience as he knows I will hollar if IM having funny feelings and not understand something going on with him. we go without sleep if we had to when we talk it out for hours. trying hard not to kill each other.

[OomHaleemah]

assalamu`alaikum ukhti,

I trust my zawj masha'Allaah! He has given me every reason to trust him and never a reason to doubt what we have promised to one another. Talking to other women behind my back is not in his character alHumdulilaah, he doesn't have the time anyways lol. He usually always talks with me through every major decision he makes because we agreed on this before we were married masha'Allaah.

[texas_muslimah]

assalamualaikum,
i trus my husband as much as possible to trust a human... meaning, in the 7 years i have been with my husband, he has not done anything to make me distrustful. has he made mistakes? of course, hes human! but i have made just as many if not more mistakes than him. but one thing i know for sure, he loves me alot. i do not doubt that one bit. but the only one you can completely put your trust in is Allah swt.
ashley

[Jameela0119]

I completely trust my husband. Since we have been married everything he does, and every decision he makes is for our family. We do have disagreements from time to time about certain ways we each think something should be, but we discuss it and come to an agreement together, Alhumduillah! Mash'Allah & Alhumduillah, my DH is a very, very religious and is quite consious of the fact that all is seen and heard by Allah (SWT)!

I believe trust is the foundation of a marriage and without it how could a marriage survive and be happy!

[Muslimah2008]

Salaam Alaikum,

Of course I trust my husband.... I always have and I always will mash'allah!



Hanan

[ladynhijab]

Salaams,

Lately, I think I only trust in Allah (swt), humans' seem to always let me down subhanAllah :(

[Fayruz]

right now NO!!!!!!
before completely and that is what i want back more than anything!

[umalmujahid]

:salam:
yes I do mash'Allah! I always think: at the end of the day he will have to deal with Allah.... and then it's his business :D

[gabsimom]

I trust my husband completely.

[anisa_reyyan]

Because of last summer, I no longer trust my husband. It is something that will I will be working on for a very, very long time.

[PrincessBella]

I completely trust my husband I have been since we've met and I'll continue to do so InshaALLAH because I believe at the end of day Im not his judge ALLAH is and ALLAH sees and hears everything.

[ummafraz]

definitely! no question about it...

[YoYo08]

10000000000000000000000000000000% I trust him

[maliks mom]

:salam:
I trust my husband but there are times when that trust is very very shaky.

[serenity101]

Assalamu alaikum,


No I do not

Serenity101

[UmmHamza]

As salaamu alaikum....... I have to say NO...i don't trust him completely... There is some trust, but I just can't put complete trust in him like that based on what he has shown me.

[UmmKareem]

:salam:,

I trust my husband 100% which is saying a lot since I'm by nature (astagfirullah) a distrustful, jealous person lol...hate to say it but its true.

[lina]

Alhamdo liLLah I do, Mashaa Allah for him

[Naina Zara]

:salam:

Without a nano second doubt about it YES !

[umm zina]

yes i trust him 100% because i know that he is a god fearing

[UmmMusa]

Salaams,

AlHumdulilah I'd trust Ramy with my life he's the best husband mashAllah!

[x7anooonah]

Alaykum Salam,

Yes, I do trust my dh and alhumdullah I was given him by Allah..

[cndn_muslim]

i voted yes

becuase i do trust my husband . in the past relationships they lied cheated and decieved me . but dh has never ever given me a reason to doubt him . i trust him so much .

You took the words right from my mouth! I can't imagine NOT trusting him!

[Charisma]

:salam:

Yes, 110% Alhamdullilah.

[εssence]

Yes. I completely do!

[✿Aisℎa✿]

yes i trust him 100% because i know that he is a god fearing


exactly the same sister.

[qiyama]

I voted 'yes', alhamdillah he has never shown something that would make me think twice about. Alhamdillah it is not in his character to talk to women and he consults me about every decision he makes regarding the house alhamdillah....we both put in our money in the same pool so we both make the decisions and I love that he takes my opinions seriously so if I don't like him purchasing something he won't, alhamdillah ive been blessed!

[Zawja_wa_Ummi]

Alhamdulillah he is god fearing .

[Umm Ayoub 01]

I voted yes Alhamdulilahi Rabbilalamin :D

[summer]

AAlhamdulillah I do trust my husband, he is god fearing too mashAllah. I couldn't find where to vote though

[Zawja_wa_Ummi]

no I dont...

[Rabitah]

no I dont...

Hugs and Duas sis- It sounds like things haven't been well since you posted in this thread before. May Allah bless with you and your family and see you through these trying times.

[Rabitah]

Well I'm a newly wed so there would be a problem if I didn't say yes, I do trust my spouse. However, one of the very first things that attracted me to his character is his honesty. Some might consider him "too honest." Masha'Allah, I value the quality and happy to have it in this relationship. It takes a huge amount of trust to carry a long distance situation such as we have. May Allah preserver the quality in us both. :)

[SHAIKHA]

All I can say is...... we're human afterall & we're weak... Astaghrafirullah, may Allah forgive our shortcomings.

I'm ok with my dh, not suspicious as I know his character ... but trust 100%???? .... Frankly, nope ! :ohno:, as other sisters have put it, I cant even trust myself, LOL !!!

[Umm Ibrahim]

:3salam:

IMO, if I can't can't trust my husband, the to whom I am closest, who can I trust? So the answer would be yes, alhamdu lillah and may Allah keep the two of us deserving of eachother's trust, ameen.

[larab]

I and my husband live far away from our family, due to his work. Since I get married to him he has been a good husband to me, a close friend, a relative and every thing. I've never suspect him of cheating or any bad behavior. Alhamdulillah.

[zawjatul-hamza]

Salams

Yes i do Alhamdoulillah . He is known for his strong Iman and truth Masha ALLAH

[Safiyah]

Masha Allah sis this is really all that is important. May he always be this way Insha Allah xxx




Salams

Yes i do Alhamdoulillah . He is known for his strong Iman and truth Masha ALLAH